Facts of Life

Posted on 05. Apr, 2008 by Uncle Gav in Bullying, Problems at Home

When you’re young you think everything is going to happen in a perfect way. Unfortunately more often than not things don’t end up the way you would like.

A few things that happen are;

  • Moving out of home when you’re 17 (Usually a girl thing, boys have more sense).
  • You’re first relationship even though it seems great is probably not the only one you’re going to have.
  • You will have wanted the perfect job for years and you’ll end up doing something totally different.
  • Money isn’t everything.
  • If you are bullied at school in any shape or form, it will stop!

MOVING OUT

Think about it… Parents are there to support you until you can financially stand on your own two feet. Get yourself a job, get out in to the real world and see what it’s like to have money and where to spend or invest it. Don’t think about moving out too early, you will end up spending money rather than saving it and not being able to do things that your friends are doing. Learn how to live with your parents whilst you’re growing up instead of trying to fight for independence far too early.

FIRST RELATIONSHIP

Although it would be nice to have your first relationship be the one that will last, this is generally not the case. Yes it happened for the older generations but life was different back then. Lives weren’t as busy for both the man and woman, there wasn’t as much independence for everyone involved.

If the first relationship is “the one” then so be it. If you think it’s going to last and then it doesn’t don’t worry about it! You’re young, you have your WHOLE life to live. Treat it as a learning time in your life to see what you want in a relationship. Believe me, there is someone out there for everyone and when it happens it will happen and I’ll put a tiny little bet on that it happens when you least expect it.

PERFECT JOB

I had a number of jobs, in fact I had a number of VERT diverse jobs before the one I am in now. Every single job I have learnt from. They help me a lot in my job today. If you manage to get your perfect job first time, great! If not, plan ahead. You know where you want to go so plan how you are going to get there.

MONEY

Money isn’t everything. Having a lot of money would be great, you could do everything you ever wanted but what are you going to do when you’ve done it all. Boredom will set in. Think hard about doing things that seem great when it comes to your finances against how well you are going to feel about doing it. Sometimes a lesser paid job will make you happier than the higher paid.

Think hard about what you want in life!

BULLIED?

I was bullied at school. Quite a lot in fact and it happened right up until I was in senior school. Then all of a sudden it stopped. I didn’t do anything different, the other people changed. Don’t ever think that you’re going to be picked on or bullied all of our life because you won’t. I will go in to the bullying subject more some other time as I feel strongly about it. Just keep your chin up, everything will work out! :)

Don’t worry about life, it will pass you by and you won’t realise how much time has passed. By the time that has happened everything will be great!

You can ask any questions you like by sending me an email.

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9 Responses to “Facts of Life”

  1. Kumar

    09. May, 2008

    Good thoughts….

    Keep on writing…

  2. Gav

    10. May, 2008

    @ Kumar – Thanks for the comment, I will be writing regular thoughts and advice.

  3. nicki

    13. Mar, 2009

    hmmm, I don’t like it.

    I moved out of the house and in with my (current) BF (who I’ve known for 5yrs and have been dating for 1) at a very young age. I have my dream job (that every little girl wants from the time she’s 8) – I’m a model and an actress. And apparently you did not learn a whole lot from your jobs because “learnt” is not a word!

    Although I agree about the being bullied thing….

  4. Uncle Gav

    13. Mar, 2009

    You don’t have to like it – I’m not asking you to. Congratulations on starting your life and doing what you’ve wanted.

    I did learn, a lot actually. I hope I can teach you something (see below);

    learnt – v. A past tense and a past participle of learn. (If you need it explaining, check out dictionary.com)

  5. Jen

    13. Mar, 2009

    @Nicki – You may have a ‘dream’ job, but doesn’t mean that it lasts forever.
    I now have a job that i love, after i had decided a career in law wasn’t actually for me (Ally Mcbeal influence). I had to in turn, work for it.
    I also have a passion for singing and such, as like many other children do, dreaming of being a pop star, i did however decide that it was best to follow a ‘long lasting’ career that would provide a stable upbringing for my family, knowing that although i could make some money and create a small following, only a few actresses and singers make it big time.
    I think due to the fact that things look so ‘rosy’ from your eyes; as if they’re going great, makes you feel empowered which in turn is fantastic. However the fact that you are so content is making you closed to other opportunities to grow socially and gain true life experience. A ‘dream’ job may not therefore bring with it maturity. I say this because you jump on the defensive and attack others when something touches a raw nerve, without having checked your arguments are bulletproof first.

  6. ElasmittyMast

    05. Apr, 2009

    Very good site! Thanks!

  7. hammoroillult

    06. Apr, 2009

    Oh.. not really what I usually think.. But nevertheless quite intresting. Thanks ;)

  8. Jenna

    17. Apr, 2009

    The only reason I read this article was to try and see if the “boys have more sense” comment was satirical.

    This article wasn’t satirical, and that was a very sexist statement.

  9. Joe

    01. Nov, 2009

    Lol @ Jenna the feminist. Anyway, good post. :)

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