How many men have been asked this question by their wives, partners, girlfriends or female friends? Notice how men always answer with “No, you look fine…” or “You look perfect…”

Women, you do realise that you’ve probably asked the same question to the same man over twenty times yet he’s given you the same answer. If he gives a lame one liner like “No, you look fine…” you should be weary as he’s actually saying “Yes, you’ve got a fat ass…”

Don’t despair, you’re obviously not fully 100% confident with yourself if you’re asking us men for our opinion. We’ll also comment on how good you look anyway and if there are men out there who don’t comment on how good our women look you need to shake yourself.

However, in all honesty if you do look a bit podgy round the edges I’d like to tell you that you are in the same way that I’d like to hear it back to me. Then we’d work together to sort ourselves out, there is nothing like putting on weight and not realising it. If you feel good in your own body, you’ll feel good everywhere else and in everything you’re doing.

So next time you ask if you bum looks big in what you’re wearing, it probably does and you probably need to do something about it. Cut out on the crap eating, up the amount of exercise and you’ll be fine.

NOTHING IS AS BAD AS WHAT YOU THINK IT IS

Sit back and think about what you’re stuck at or what you want to achieve and identify the things you would like to fix. Which ones you’re in control of and which ones you’re not, then put them into a list and start working through them.

At the end of all of that you’ll have a moment of clarity and figure out what needs to be done to make your life better.

I’ve seen suicide first hand, it’s certainly not a very nice thing to see up close and personal and its certainly not very nice seeing someone go so low in themselves to think about taking their own life. To take your own life, you’re not only restricting yourself from becoming so much better than the person you are but you’re hindering the people closest to you from being happy also. Granted these days you have to think about yourself first but believe you me there is always someone close to you no matter what kind of person you are or what you’ve done.

If you’re feeling down, if you feel like you’ve got nothing else to lose then go and talk to someone. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE. Ever.

Get everything off your chest, there are more than enough people around you to help you deal with things that are bothering you. No matter who you are or what you’re thinking you have so much to live for, I’m asking for anyone in that position to look through where they are in the moment and look to the future look where you want to be.

Let’s start looking beyond problems, aiming high and reaching a happy future!

Life is never as bad as you think it is!

Tip for passing the driving theory test

Get a hold of the driving theory test CD, install it onto the computer and work through test after test after test. Do this for 2 or 3 hours a day for around a week and you’ll pass your test first time (probably), I’ve not known someone fail by doing it this way yet.

The tricky bit

When the Hazard Perception test was added to the driving theory test it was supposed to make the test harder in many ways and hopefully over time decrease the amount of people who weren’t meant to pass. Revision for this part of the test was difficult as revising for something that is going to be completely random is a no hoper at best.

This is what the DVLA have to say about the test;

The hazard perception part is delivered on a computer and you respond by clicking a button on the mouse. You will be presented with a series of video clips which feature every day road scenes. In each clip there will be at least one developing hazard, but one of the clips will feature two developing hazards.

To achieve a high score you will need to respond to the developing hazard during the early part of its development. The maximum you can score on each hazard is five.

Recognition of available clues and perception of danger are skills that are necessary in all drivers and riders, irrespective of the vehicle used. For this reason, the same version of the hazard perception test is used for all categories of test.

The DVLA website attempts to give you tips on when to click during the test however its not very helpful so I’ll provide a solid tip to take heed of and you’ll be enlightened as to how easy the test actually is.

Click when something is going to cause you to speed up, slow down or change direction.

That’s it, no long and complicated explanation just another one liner which will help you out a lot.

In summary the tips to passing your driving theory test are;

1. Get a hold of the driving theory test CD, install it and work through the test for 2 or 3 hours a day for about a week prior to your test. You will begin to recognise the answers to the questions. Even if you think you know them all, keep at it. Prior preparation prevents a piss poor performance after-all.
2. During the Hazard Perception phase of your driving theory test remember to click when something causes you to speed up, slow down or change direction and don’t be too trigger happy.

I’d love to hear from people who have used this advice/tips and passed.

These tips are from my own point of view only and MAY help you pass, so I take no responsibility for what happens I can only say they have worked for myself and others over the years.

I’ve spoken before about the fight or flight mechanism in all of us, the ability to shy away or fight for your life. Fighting can sometimes get you in to more trouble than it’s actually worth and flighting can sometimes make you look weak when you’re actually not.

Even recently this man (me) has been knocked clearly on his arse, and I seriously didn’t know how to respond. It’s in my own nature to fight as I’ve never been much of a flighty type of guy. After I had thought about it for a while I wanted to get angry, then I felt depressed. I tried to talk to people about it and they were in pretty much the same mind, they didn’t know how to react.

If you’re on your arse, figure out why…

Nine times out of ten there will be a reason why you’re looking at the sky. You need to figure out why and learn from it. It took me a while to find out why I was there and the result was that I needed to get better at what I do. Don’t lose yourself in hate or anger, just get on with the job at hand and get a new lease of life and overall motivational kick start. You can always be better at what you do, a person who says they are perfect is dillusional.

Get with it, pick yourself up, brush yourself down and get back to it…